Finding Peace Through a Life Review

Lorde, is it really nearly the end of April?

At the end of November my father's companion of 25 years had a stroke and some other complications to her health.  Since then, my father has been on a slippery slope.  At the end of February Jane passed over and it triggered in my father his own desire to stop living.  He is suffering from severe depression and anxiety.  I spoke with his social worker today and feel confident he is in good hands.

Don't mistake my enthusiasm for his therapist with denial of the tenuous situation that it is.  And don't think I don't have my own ideas about his treatment plan.  At times he wishes it had been him that died.  And right now, he feels like he has nothing to live for.  Call me crazy, but I don't think that's true, for if it were, I believe Spirit would have figured out by now his exit strategy.  Ok, so stay with me here...I'm also not convinced he is meant to keep on living and create a new life for himself on planet earth either.  Call me open minded.

As you may be gleaning now, I am pretty comfortable with death.  But no death comes before its time.  If I were his therapist, I would be asking him....Do you feel like you have lived a full life?  Are you at peace with the life you have lived thus far?   If not, what would it take to make peace with it?  What contributions have you made?  What are your fondest memories?  When you look back what were your greatest struggles?  What did you learn from them?  Where are your disapointments? What would it be like to offer forgiveness and compassion to yourself?  What made you different?  What did you do better than anyone else (your special talent/gift that you brought to the world)?    Do you feel like anything has been left undone up until this point or does life feel complete?  Are there places you still want to visit?  Are there things left unsaid to people you care about?  Amends you would like to make to instill peace within?  Things that you always said you would do, but haven't gotten to yet? Are there things you are still curious about?  Are there people you would like to get to know better that you never had the chance to because of the life you had with Jane?  

Life Review can be healthy at any stage, but in this instance in particular I feel like it could be soothing and a relief from looking forward into a life he doesn't want right now.  I think looking backwards could bring him clarity about moving forward.  Spirit desires very little, but the soul yearns for peace.  When the soul is at peace, Spirit can move freely to make things happen instantaneously as it should according to the Divine Plan, our Highest Good, and our Souls Purpose.  When the soul is not at peace it is like swimming upstream as we resist the current that Spirit has created. Spirit is constantly rejiggering things to get us heading with the flow but that takes time and delays the next phase/perfect step.  This is why I say that the universe is always conspiring to help us.  It is constantly responding to what we put out in a way that tries to turn us in the direction of the tide that Spirit has created for us.

My father is at a crossroads, struggling to figure out his next step and it is obvious he is not at peace and suffering great pain.  He has been trying to make decisions about moving forward and decisions about where to live when he isn't even sure he wants to remain on the planet.  He can't even decide what he wants for lunch, how can he decide these things about a future he isn't sure he wants?  To me, it sounds like its time for a Life Review.  Maybe with that some new light will be shed on things.  Maybe he will feel complete by focusing on what has been and in seeing that rather than a mountain of decisions and budgets to be made, he can find peace with the life he has had thus far.  Peace is always a better place to work from than pain.  Once he is at peace, who knows what he'll decide, but I am at peace with whatever Spirit has in store for him.  I just think it would be nice if he was at peace too.